Thats not appropriate for our relationship. 613 posts, read 1,015,221 . Happy couples need time apart and to. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. Jealousy comes from a lack of trust. Lets see how many times I can add to this. Often she would be out till 2am or so.. Get a shock collar too so if steps out line you can zap him. I guess I J. don't see how going to a bar solo and getting into situations where there's lots of alcohol, music and men are hitting on you/questioning your relationship can be very good at all for your current relationship. So I spend quite a lot of time with people who are not part of my nuclear family. It was a relief not going anymore. You were. Warning signs that your male partner is emotionally controlling you. I don't understand why everyone flipped out about single people going out together. Night after Friday night, he'd ask about my week, make jokes with me during lulls in the bar rush, and never charge me for my vodka buzz. My bf WAS texting me from the bar, but that has tapered off. but things he says or does make you feel bad about yourself - and you can't really figure out why. Looking for advice on handling a disappointing visit, She broke up with me because of my gambling, France to the US - long distance problems. Not just change the rule without saying something and then she can choose to keep playing or quit. answers from Chicago on October 30, 2008. And I have to laugh at that "allowed to go out without your boyfriend" line you posted.sounds like that fellow wouldn't have been good boyfriend material, even if you had been single! It's not hard to pick up a phone even if your drunk. Gd luck to everyone in the same situation and i hope you are stronger than me when you bite the bullet and call it a day!Please dont msg anything horrible back, i need support not a ribbing! We know where the lines are where each of us are comfortable with and neither one of us has ever crossed it. But I would care if he went with women , J. like he would not like M. sitting drinking or dancing with men. Commitment has nothing to do, with restricting another person. But we can do that because we are older and have an understanding of what we want out of life. LOTS of women purposely go after married men. that can be too easily taken as "I AM AVAILABLE!" He sounds like a really sweet guy and even likes to text you while he is out. While telling him your problem just say I know its long distance which makes it hard for the both of us but I feel like I wanna talk to you more, and it worries me that you're always drinking and im afraid that there might be another girl out there. He is away but he is not gone. My husband and I are a like to where he has more female friends and I have more male friends that we are closest to, thankfully it doesn't bother either one of us. wha NC for 4 months, ex didn't send me a text call or Anything for my Bday, tog She only talks, or texts in response to my call/text. I have not a single reason to? You know the one that is filled with mostly guys, laid back and where everyone knows everyone and if you don't you will by the time you walk out and people cheer when you walk in the door? So no - when we were dating I did go out dancing quite a bit with my girlfriends - and of course we were hit on - but I never went home with anyone or to anyone other than my hubs. It makes me panic. I guess I J. can't really imagine being in a relationship with someone that I didn't trust enough to be "allowed" to hang out with the opposite sex. I am a very touchy feely person. My ex cheated on M. once and i had him on a very short leash for a while. That, combined with him expressing a desire to do MORE of this bar-going WITHOUT ME and spending less time with mePLUS he comes back from the bar, telling me about girls that are hot for himit's giving me some serious issues that are threatening our relationship. i have a hard time trusting he's not hooking up with another girl..i have talked to him before how i wish he would call me, but we always end up fightingwhere do i go from here..is this a big deal or something not to be concerned about. what do i do? He knew that I was not going to be hooking up with anyone. However if he was taking his single female intern out J. the two of them for drinksI would have a problem with thatif they go to lunch I really don't mind because it is usually because they are far away from the office on a site visit and go get something to eat. There's really very little I can do to *make* him act with integrity and honor, besides doing so myself. My husband occasionally goes out with friends for a round of golf and then to a bar afterwards, I've never really given it much thought but I also trust him and am not worried. Its putting trust into the OTHER person. Be In Touch with Him. I don't control my husband. "It likely means that they don't want you in family photos and/or on their family's mind. I have a friend that I met on eharmony. That means, he wants to reassure you that a) he didn't go home with some bar floozy and b) he got home safely. ahhh thats the one=) I haven't been there since January so it was a nice change. Seinfeld (/ s a n f l d / SYNE-feld) is an American television sitcom created by Larry David and Jerry Seinfeld.It aired on NBC from July 5, 1989, to May 14, 1998, over nine seasons and 180 episodes.It stars Seinfeld as a fictionalized version of himself and focuses on his personal life with three of his friends: best friend George Costanza (Jason Alexander), former girlfriend Elaine . S H said it great, however i would add that the only way i go out is either with "the girls" or with my husband. I love him but he doesn't seem to put any effort. Answer: I think you'll both be happier if you let her go out with friends within reason, of course. you have no probable cause so don't get hyped up over a though. I went to see my boyfriend in the worst place in Vancouver downtown and he was standing outside of the bar and this was late at night by the way. 2. **Updated, Discussion-Having Single Friends When Married. But my husband trusts M.. Now, like I said..if this changes, and he starts wanting to go more, like my bf is, and it cuts into your alone time..then yeah. All this woman wants to know is if her boyfriend is going out, because when you care for someone, it just nice to know. They got married a year later. Even though I know he wouldn't just the thought of my boyfriend getting drunk worries me that he will make a bad decision. I do the same thing for a girls night out. Right now, it seems he's being attentive to your needs. If you recognize that your partner does these things without you, it doesn't mean that the relationship is definitely over, but it does probably mean that there's some sort of problem there. I personally would not do that. It's good "guy" time doesn't bother M. Now, if it was a strip club he was going to, my answer would then be no :). He might also be addicted to such acts, or have a compulsion to self-soothe' through intercourse. But understand that it is an opportunity for something to happen because you are specifically putting yourself in that situation. and yea i dont agree with how much he is going out and getting drunk. To hook up. Enjoy those evenings when he is out and look forward to the next time you see him. He knows I'll come home relaxed and happy. Help should I stay with him or not and it has been four long years that we have been together. Over time the concern faded as I learned to trust her and she never violated that trust. But it got old. My kuwait he text me day and night but no telphone call. I trust him, too. My Long Distance Girlfriend won't video call with me. The good thing about that is when he turns M. on or says sexy things to M., I don't have to turn him down and I get to go home with him! How many people have you slept with in your life?? If it's a trend, however, you might need to do some reflecting. explicit permission. What I'd really prefer though is to go out with a few drinks with HIM! He stays out all night and turns the ringer off, pfffft. Wouldn't dream of it. J. my personal opinionto each his own. Honestly..what i'm going to start doing is when I know hes going out to drink, you should just play his game..don't text/ call him..let him come to youif he does. He was drunk and he is supposed to go to work in the morning. He should be calling you If it was a few hours I'd be fine but he goes off grid for like 10/12 hours at a time and then texts to say his phone died, or he left it at home etc should I be questioning this? I thought this was an interesting point of view, and it made sense because women are in touch with the emotional side of attraction more than men are. Ok, he went out without your permission, I mean, without notifying you. Then ask yourself if he really cares what you do. And you allow that? Some men J. have very flirtatious personalities. Our relationship will never be more than friends. No, I know it is. (and the funny thing is, in our relationship, I'm the one who's far more likely to go out by myself.). Even if you don't actually go out. It seems like you really enjoy the attention so maybe your current relationship isn't up to par? Sorry - J. reality in my world - you haven't made a LIFETIME commitment to your boyfriend - hence the fact he is bf and not dh. Did you find this post helpful? A lot. He was at the club for our college. But its not like we would go kissing others anyways but just saying 1. Some people trust because they are good people and lack experience and it's just the right thing to do. Whether he is hooking up with another girl or not, I'd question why he would be drunk often. 9. Some people are brutaly honest and would never cheat. When he normally calls and then he doesn't is when he is out having fun. If you have an open relationship that should be discussed . Wear anything other than what I usually wear? if your bf is okay with it then there's no problem. I was 20, she was 21, and I couldn't hit the bars with her. There was a promo for $5 off your next dinner if you purchased a $25 gift certificate. And just a little hint (whens playing games-such as baseball- you cant just change the rules to benefit yourself). That's different. Make out you are. WE did just make up from a fight couple days ago. I really prefer dinning room tables and strong coffee though. It J. seems silly to worry when there is J. nothing to worry about. you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. My friends are like family to M. and I get so much warmth and strength from them. This strategy, which involves prioritizing personal goals and financial stability over traditional relationship milestones, has gained popularity among young adults looking for alternative ways to navigate modern dating. Even then hes moody and doesnt pay me much attention. 1. Like whatever, I love him so much that I could do anything for him but who am I to fool I can't stand this any longer. If your partner doesn't seem interested in having you involved in trip planning or is actively working on plans for trips without you, that could be a sign that something's going on, psychotherapist Kimberly Hershenson tells Romper in an email exchange. We J. like to know where the other one is, more for safety than out of paranoia or concerns of cheating. My husband HATES it!! My boyfriend goes out, spends time with his friends, and drinks on the weekends. Why boyfriend doesn't call? You still have freedom. Has she always been that way, or is this a recent development? The "Cool" way to think. He TEXTS YOU while he's OUT WITH THE BOYS?! But when I'm home, I'm usually out with himbecause I miss him! So no I wouldn't do that, but I would have an opposite sex friend even in a committed relationship if it was okay with all parties involved. My husband and his friends will have a "guys" weekend once a year. He asked for nothing in return. Having a "Guys" night. going out alone indicates infedlity " potentially" or alcoholism. Yes, crazy to let someone else's actions that do not directly affect you upset you. Does my husband go out to bars without M.? And now he was at a party and he messaged me around 9 pm telling he loved me. That's how long I have been here. But, that's not the point of your post so I digress. Probably. If I had asked questions, and made a couple comments, I am sure I could have had a hundred thousand posts by now too. Hafta to do it at home I guess. Delivery & Pickup Options - 59 reviews of LongHorn Steakhouse "We went for lunch on a Saturday. "[I]f you find that your partner is more engaged with text messaging friends or on social media when you're with them, this is a sign that they are not present in the relationship," Hershenson says.

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